In Martha Beck's Wayfinder Life Coach Training, we use the tool "WIGs" - Wildly Improbable Goals, grounded on her teaching that we can't get everything we dream, but if we don't allow ourselves to dream it - we won't be likely to achieve it.
In 2022, I wrote the e-mail that's in the photo while in Wayfinder Life Coach Training.
I initially thought the e-mail was cringy when I read it a few months ago, but I have practiced self-compassion enough to reframe and honor what I needed when I wrote it. I was SO LOST. I wanted a place where I belonged. I craved to be seen and feel like I had some sort of value in the world. I was so grateful to have found peace and community in the Wayfinder cohort and Martha's books.
I wrote the e-mail one month after one of my articles came out on KevinMD that changed my life - Dr. Pho titled it "I Risked my Career to Save My Life." The article helped me to release YEARS of guilt and shame. And the judgment I thought I was going to receive? It never arrived. I received so much love, support, and community of people who resonated with my journey. That's why I kept writing and sharing.
Fast forward to present time... I've been sitting on a book for years. I was halfway done with the draft when I deleted it last year - and though it was an accident, I think it was subconsciously on purpose. I wasn't ready for the book to be born.
I started writing the book again a few months ago.. this time a bit differently. This time - it will be born!
Today, I read Martha and the Master Coach Training mentors and mentees an article that will be part of one of my books... there are two books that I am prioritizing as I want to have them out and available to advocate for those living with anorexia nervosa and their families and those who have lost meaning and purpose in their lives. One will be out next year- I told Martha I am confident in that, so it must happen. :-)
The point of sharing? If you read the e-mail - me sharing that information with Martha WAS my WIG!
My wildly improbably goal and huge dream was fulfilled today... Over two years after voicing it in an e-mail when there was no way that I would ever have imagined the possibility that this dream would actually happen.
When I wrote the e-mail, I still didn't think I'd be here two years later. It was only a year from my rock bottom despair and I was still recovering from the exhaustion, depletion and medical compromise. It's taken awhile to think of the future when I was in survival mode... and if you're there now, I see you. It can be hard to feel creative and inspired when treading water. In those times, rest and recovery are priority.
And when you get to a place where you can dream - what is your WIG?
As I accept that I am here. I am alive. I am no longer tethered to the past that once defined me. I am no longer clutching to a fantasy of how I wish life could be. I am creating the life that feels meaningful. I am accepting what is and choosing what may be... I am going where the love is, and letting go of attempts to create love where it is not.
I am making the most of each day. Care to join me? 💖✨
First steps - Allow yourself to dream and bring to awareness your Wildly Improbably Goal... while you may not get everything you dream, if you don't allow yourself to dream it, you won't be likely to make it a reality! So get cozy, allow the dream to arise, and write it down in detail! Then circle back and let me know what starts to shift in the direction of your dreams!
Read more about WIGs from Martha Beck here: https://www.oprah.com/spirit/wildly-improbable-goals/all
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